Your poor mother, I cannot imagine how she must have suffered alone in suffocating layers - abandonment upon illness upon pregnancy upon grief upon how many other feeling hurt and hopes destroyed. I would imagine that your birth was the answer to many, many duas she must have made in her second period of abandonment.
May Allah bless her with an easy life and a beautiful return to Him, and give you the tawfeeq you need to make her proud in this life and the next.
And lastly, this post is so beautiful and emotional. I truly want you to be the best in your life, so you can give your mama the life she’s always dreamed of.
I also wish that you and other men never treat their wives the way some do. Trust me, we girls don’t ask for much. Just a man who supports us, doesn’t yell in anger, doesn’t throw around threats of divorce… someone who can cook when we’re tired or at least help a little.
But khair, your mama raised you so well. Truly, give my salaam to that amazing aunty.
I loved loved loved this post, it honestly made me smile so many times. Why? Because I can see how your mama raised you. You’re truly a gentleman.
I’ve never talked to any boy before, but oh my you’re the kind of boy I wish this world had more of. So that girls wouldn’t have to be afraid when they get married.
I felt a little hurt too after reading about your baba’s actions. But you know what? That’s the harsh reality, most fathers have done the same. And why do they act like that? Of course, because it’s always considered a woman’s responsibility, right?
They may have been good fathers to us, but as husbands? I never want my husband to be like mine, my father who never gave my mom her rights. I wish, I really wish, my mom hadn’t married him. She deserved better.
I just hope every child grows up to become a big name, so they can give their mother the best life.
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Wow, that's such an admirable mindset. I really wish more people thought that way because sadly, so many men have watched their mothers go through similar struggles, yet still choose to stay ignorant. I think a lot of parents have experienced something similar too, including mine (atleast to some extent). It raises so many questions in my mind.
At 21, thinking about marriage, I wonder: how much should one sacrifice? There's sacrifice even in small things too. even in friendships, like when your friend chooses a restaurant you don't feel like going to, but you still say yes to the plan. So where do you draw the line in a marriage? At what point do you say, "This is enough"? Or do you stay with someone who isn't being the best husband, holding onto the hope that things will get better?
Sometimes I wonder, if my parents had separated back then, would I even have the family bond I absolutely am grateful for today? Probably not. And honestly, I wouldn't trade my family for anything in the world. My parents, and their marriage, are people I genuinely look up to. But like you said, sometimes it's the third parties such as the in-laws, friends, or even society, who create unnecessary issues and feed that toxic ego of "you're a man, act like it."
I'm truly so happy for your mom, her patience and prayers paid off beautifully. Allah always listens, especially when no one else seems to. She's not only earned her happiness and peace but has clearly raised you so well. May Allah bless her endlessly and continue to make you a source of pride for her, Ameen.
Allahuma barik, I really admire your mom for being strong.
Instead of transfering her pain and anger towards you, she showered you with love and thought you to be respectful.
You are such a sweet boy, May Allah grant you with the best spouse and make you a better spouse for her.
Do tell your mom,she has a new admirer ❤️🌹🌹❤️.
As salaam alaykum waramotullah.
Ameen.
i just wanna let you know that i cried reading this. may your mother deserves all the happiness in this world and the hereafter 🤍
I'm sorry as well as thank you for your kind words. May my allah bless you always here and here after.
Your poor mother, I cannot imagine how she must have suffered alone in suffocating layers - abandonment upon illness upon pregnancy upon grief upon how many other feeling hurt and hopes destroyed. I would imagine that your birth was the answer to many, many duas she must have made in her second period of abandonment.
May Allah bless her with an easy life and a beautiful return to Him, and give you the tawfeeq you need to make her proud in this life and the next.
Ameen. May allah bless you and your family, keep you and your loved ones under his divine Mercy.
And lastly, this post is so beautiful and emotional. I truly want you to be the best in your life, so you can give your mama the life she’s always dreamed of.
I also wish that you and other men never treat their wives the way some do. Trust me, we girls don’t ask for much. Just a man who supports us, doesn’t yell in anger, doesn’t throw around threats of divorce… someone who can cook when we’re tired or at least help a little.
But khair, your mama raised you so well. Truly, give my salaam to that amazing aunty.
I loved loved loved this post, it honestly made me smile so many times. Why? Because I can see how your mama raised you. You’re truly a gentleman.
I’ve never talked to any boy before, but oh my you’re the kind of boy I wish this world had more of. So that girls wouldn’t have to be afraid when they get married.
I felt a little hurt too after reading about your baba’s actions. But you know what? That’s the harsh reality, most fathers have done the same. And why do they act like that? Of course, because it’s always considered a woman’s responsibility, right?
They may have been good fathers to us, but as husbands? I never want my husband to be like mine, my father who never gave my mom her rights. I wish, I really wish, my mom hadn’t married him. She deserved better.
I just hope every child grows up to become a big name, so they can give their mother the best life.
Ameen, sum Ameen.
Ameen. Thank you for your kind words.
I just started my Substack journey in which I explore effective ways of freeing Palestine and sharing deep thoughts (among other things) follow for more 🫶🏻
Wow, that's such an admirable mindset. I really wish more people thought that way because sadly, so many men have watched their mothers go through similar struggles, yet still choose to stay ignorant. I think a lot of parents have experienced something similar too, including mine (atleast to some extent). It raises so many questions in my mind.
At 21, thinking about marriage, I wonder: how much should one sacrifice? There's sacrifice even in small things too. even in friendships, like when your friend chooses a restaurant you don't feel like going to, but you still say yes to the plan. So where do you draw the line in a marriage? At what point do you say, "This is enough"? Or do you stay with someone who isn't being the best husband, holding onto the hope that things will get better?
Sometimes I wonder, if my parents had separated back then, would I even have the family bond I absolutely am grateful for today? Probably not. And honestly, I wouldn't trade my family for anything in the world. My parents, and their marriage, are people I genuinely look up to. But like you said, sometimes it's the third parties such as the in-laws, friends, or even society, who create unnecessary issues and feed that toxic ego of "you're a man, act like it."
I'm truly so happy for your mom, her patience and prayers paid off beautifully. Allah always listens, especially when no one else seems to. She's not only earned her happiness and peace but has clearly raised you so well. May Allah bless her endlessly and continue to make you a source of pride for her, Ameen.
Ameen, thank you so much, may allah bless you always.
Walaikum salam.
Thank you so much, may allah bless you also more and more.
Ok I will tell my mom. Thank you